Goher's sister, Katie, had Joined Baba's ashram immediately after high school; she had traveled with the women during the Blue Bus Tours and had been living with the women at Meherabad the past year, while Goher finished her final year of medical school in Bombay. Goher had stayed with the women whenever she had holidays, and Katie had written her frequently from the tours (at Baba's instructions) keeping her informed of their travels.

Although, Goher had never thought of staying with Baba permanently, during her summer holidays in 1944, Adi Sr., her cousin, had driven her to Meherazad to see Baba.

During their meeting, which was on the mandali's side (in what later became Aloba's room), Baba told Goher that when she finished her studies, she should join him. Later, Goher discussed the matter with her parents and then told Baba that, although her father had no objection, her mother was very upset at the idea and had wept over it. Her mother, thus far, had only been able to see Katie on occasions such as Mehera's birthday when everyone was invited. She thought that, if Goher too joined the ashram, she would never be able to see either of her daughters privately again.

"I felt so sad when my mother objected to my joining the ashram," Goher recalled.

For advice and support, Goher turned to Adi Sr., who related: "Goher had a thing with her mother. It was her mother on one side, Baba on the other and me, her cousin, in the middle. Her mother would come and argue with me. Goher would weep and weep. I advised her to give up her attachment with her mother. What are parents in comparison to being so near to the body which housed God?"

But Goher wrote to Baba that she would come "later" — meaning after her mother died, or calmed down. Baba was extremely displeased and sent back a message that, in that case, Goher should not come at all.

Goher replied on 15 June 1944:

Dear Baba,

I do not feel prepared to come to you now. My promise to you remains, and I shall serve you but I do not know when. It may be at any moment, or after some months or years. I do not know what to do and am raving like a mad woman. Call me what you may — a coward, perhaps. Yes, I am rather weak minded and cannot face the situation yet.

All these years you have guided me, and now you leave the decision to myself. Being engrossed in books all these years, I did not know my responsibilities, but now I do. You may break all concern with me, if you like, but I will not, and shall stick to you. Now I am suffering and know that more is to come. If I have to give up my happiness for the sake of others, I do not mind. As long as I am away from you, life will be a torture to me. I was asking for peace of mind, but you do not desire to give it. I have failed, Baba. Forgive me.

Yours humbly,
Goher

Baba sent the following reply by telegram:

"YOUR LIFE IS MEANT TO LIVE WITH ME AND SERVE ME."

Goher then informed her parents that she had decided to join Baba and wrote to him:

"I want to come to you. It doesn't matter now. I don't care about my parents' wishes."